Wednesday, December 29, 2010

Why Horny Men Sometimes Look Like The Devil, And Bad Boys Are Muddy Carpet Tracks

Why do I villainize men for wanting sex?

I mean- It's a natural desire, and I want it just as much as they do. And I think I'd be lying if the idea of variety didn't appeal as well- but for some reason, it just makes me so uneasy.

Being a woman is kind of like having this gorgeous house,

.....And all the guy has to do is knock on the door. He could come in with muddy feet, ruin your furniture, kick your cat, and then walk right back out the door. Sure it's a little scary for him- walking inside the house- not knowing what kind of junk he's going to run into or how messy the house (you) really is.

But it's nothing compared to the great risk that the female takes. She has been building and developing this house for a long time. Or maybe not, perhaps her house is not ready, or vandals disrupted the building process.

That's what sex is like for a woman. The house (a body) is supposed to be a very special safe place- meant for only the finest of house guests.

Which is why we MUST be careful with who we let to come in that door.
Where is the line that must be drawn? Opening up a tiny window of temptation- can turn into opening the garage door to disaster.

It's not as easy for women. If someone comes over to visit your house- it's a big deal- it's even worse if they leave a mess.
You can't just pretend like the muddy tracks all over your floor didn't happen- there's always constant reminders left behind after each guest departs. There's dirty handprints on the walls of your mind.

There's no doubt though, that the men make our houses warmer. They turn on the electricity, make us feel alive. Make the house feel complete. When they leave, everything shuts back down. We chase the men out the door, neglecting our home, ignoring our old, true desires.

When we finally do come back to our sad, empty house- it can be depressing, moving on with life can be difficult.

But there IS hope!! and where does God play into this? In my mind, he is like the quiet, fuzzy radio that keeps you company in your home. Giving you warnings, telling you stories, sharing advice, always there, always playing (although sometimes the reception is kind of bad).

When the guy enters the house, sometimes we shut off the radio. Which in turn shuts off the warnings that God may be trying to tell us.

Which is why it is so important that your man WANTS TO HEAR THE RADIO TOO! You want someone who will enjoy God as much as you do- someone who will appreciate the warnings, listen to the advice, and enjoy the stories as much as you do.

Does that make sense? When two people are actively listening to God AND connecting with each other, it makes for the richest possible life experience.

But back to the original point, I think I villainize men for wanting sex because of how easy it appears to be for them. I envy it. They are not the ones having their "houses" destroyed in the same way.

They are able to move on to other homes- with other amenities.

Some men will eventually settle at the "nicest" house they find, but many will not. Many will be wondering what lies behind the doors of all the other houses in the world. Until they can truly tune into "God" radio, they will always get bored with an individual woman and move on.

Why Samantha Jones Is Bullying Virgins Everywhere

I hate our culture, really hate it.

I don't like to call myself an idealist- but I think I just might be, or maybe I just want things the way God intended them to be?

Yes, I know men have to "sow their wild oats" and women should "explore" but.....

How is that the idea of saving sex until marriage is so incredibly foreign? Especially in a country that claims to be 78.4% Christian? Why is it that I dated an agnostic who had more respectful attitudes about women and sex than Christian guys?

There is no standard and nobody cares anymore, hence "Teen Mom" on MTV
but HELLO, we definitely should be! 1 out of 2 marriages ending in America? Blame it on the money spats or what have you- but perhaps if people did not have so much baggage walking into a marriage from past relationships- maybe they would have made it longer, maybe.

Sex is something really important.
When did we forget that sex is a deeply spiritual act between two people who are committed for life? As far as I'm concerned, it is the pinnacle of human experience and marriage is the epic journey within which to contain it.

But why do I hate myself for saying that? It brings so many negative connotations upon myself that I'm not even comfortable with. Things like "old fashioned", "impractical", "prudish", "no fun". And really- who wants to be associated with those things? Even old people these days are friskier than I am. **sigh**

Who wants to be left standing in the middle of the road with the dust blowing on their face, with lovers riding away to greener pastures (and open legs)

I understand how unappealing this lifestyle is that I've chosen, I know, I get it, and it doesn't make it easier. In my mind, I would much rather be Samantha Jones (from Sex And The City)- with the freedom to screw whoever I want and just move on with life. I hear her taunting- "Just DO IT, darling"

I honestly have no idea what has kept me going this long (other than God's protection). After seeing so many friends "lose it" and the inevitable heartbreak that occurred every time afterwards, it filled me with a strange sense of relief- but the jealousy and the feeling of "missing out" is still there.

As with all good things in life- sex is incredibly powerful with an extreme positive and negative energy. Use it for good in a committed context- and the results are fireworks! Use it carelessly and it's destructive dynamite, leaving craters in the heart and soul.

So I end this note with the question thats been swirling in my head-
"Can you build a fire in your lap and not burn your pants?"

10 No-Fail Things I've Learned About Life

1.There are a lot of unsexy people having sex, therefore having sex doesn't always equal being sexy. Knowing who you are, and what your purpose is, is infinitely more attractive/valuable.

2. Wisdom simply means, learning the art of preventing preventable mistakes in life. Why go through more pain than you have to?

3. Every time something bad happens, something good happens soon after. It all has a purpose.

4. It doesn't really work so well when a girl asks a guy out. (too easy)

5. Success is pointless if your to busy to enjoy it, or have no one to share it with.

6. Confidence is the absolute key to attraction and success. Fake it 'till you make it. Nothing impresses people more than acting like you know what your doing, and not being arrogant about it.

7. Don't plan to much. I leave the door open to whatever God wants to do, because He knows me better than I know myself + usually surprises me with pretty amazing things that I could never have planned.

8. Everyone is prejudice about something. Politics, racism, religion, whatever. No one is the whole world's friend.

9. No matter how you feel about your parents, at least learn from their mistakes.

10. Getting a creative job is 90% networking. You can be amazingly talented, but if nobody knows about it, things won't happen.